Articles About Narcissism in Relationships

Narcissists, Cell Phones, & My FB Revenge Confession

How on earth did narcissists and sociopaths ever pander their diabolical wares before the invention of cell phones, Facebook, and other forms of social media? For those of us who’s relationship with a narcissist dates back, say, 13+ years, I think it’s safe to say that narcissists back then, sans the gadgets, were much tamer,

Modern Day Narcissism & the Evolution of Evil

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Like any high school Baby Boomer in the late 70’s, I would have associated the term ‘narcissism’ with self-absorption and conceit…albeit on a very non-threatening level. In fact, the term “narcissist” was never used at all. While roaming hallways, we may have referred to certain people as being “conceited” or “vain” but only in hushed

Narcissism at Its Core Is the Inability to Attach

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When we love someone with a narcissistic personality, there’s a whole lot of head-scratching going on behind the scenes. What IS it about this person that is so…well…”off”? Forget about “good” behavior, why doesn’t he or she behave “badly” in a “normal” way like every other person or partner we’ve known? And why on earth

Can a Narcissist be Fixed or Cured?

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A narcissist is not “fixable” because he or she is hardwired completely differently from the regular folks. Narcissists, no matter what we say, no matter how logical we make our argument, no matter what evidence that we present, will never cop to the fact that they need to be fixed. The narcissistic brain just doesn’t

How to Get Over a Narcissist – Guaranteed!

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So, why can’t you get over the narcissist? Why can’t you let it go? This person is so particularly awful, why can’t you kick him or her to the curb and never look back? More and more, this is becoming the cry of those I speak with and I do have answers but I’m not

What Exactly IS a Narcissist Anyway?

By Zari Ballard2 Comments

Like a good portion of the Baby Boomer population, I grew up with the understanding that that the word ‘narcissistic’ described someone who was ‘conceited’…a person, male or female, who not only obsessed over personal appearance but gleefully wallowed in it…a lover of mirrors, a groomer. If only it were that simple. Clearly, in just the

Breaking Up With a Narcissist: It’s Easier Than You Think

By Zari Ballard28 Comments

Breaking up with a narcissist is never easy but, with the right intention and the willingness to let a few things go, it certainly can be done. The good news is that the “rules” of breaking up with a narcissist are completely different than the rules that apply to even the most dysfunctional of “normal”

APHANTASIA & the Narcissistic Personality: Is there a connection??

By Zari Ballard17 Comments

Is there a connection between Aphantasia and the narcissistic personality? There could be! When we’re involved with narcissists, much of our time is spent pondering the how, why and ‘how could’ of the narcissist we’re dealing with. We want to figure it all out and then we want to fix it even if we lose a

Historical Rejection: Why the Narcissist Gives Us Up

By Zari Ballard102 Comments

I think that when a narcissist discards us, one of the reasons we wait for him to return (aside from the fact that he’s conditioned us to do so) is because we just can’t fathom the fact that he could actually give us up. And that’s what he does – he gives us up. We

Narcissists, Lies & the Great Relationship Reset

By Zari Ballard4 Comments

Narcissists love to press the Great Relationship Reset Button. In pressing this imaginary button, the narcissist gets to waltz back into the relationship without any repercussions or consequences and just pick up from the point they left off. During the course of our time with the narc, we actually become used to this reset and