Articles About Narcissism in Relationships

How to Read a Narcissist (& Turn the Projection Ploy to Your Advantage)

Even though a narcissist is a pathological liar, there are times where he/she offers truth amongst the lies. We can use the ploy of projection to our advantage! As victims, can actually get to that truth – if we would only listen. Yup, that’s right, if we really pay attention to the narcissist’s word garbage

“Narcspeak” IS Neural Linguistic Programing (NLP)

By Zari Ballard10 Comments

I’ve determined that “narcspeak”…that word garbage, mind-control style manner in which a narcissist uses words to manipulate and control others…is nothing more than a base model version of Neural Linguistic Programming or NLP, a marketing science developed in the 70’s that uses words and body language to influence people into thinking a very specific way.

Narcissists & the Sport of Seduce & Discard

By Zari Ballard30 Comments

The narcissist’s tactic of seduce and discard is the solid foundation of the narcissist’s pathological relationship agenda. Everything else that the narcissist does – every manipulative ploy, behavior, and characteristic – is connected to this tactic and he counts on it to work for him every time, all the time, and for as long as

Does a Married Narcissist Ever Leave His Wife?

By Zari Ballard32 Comments

A married narcissist, out of all narcissistic predators, causes the most angst to partners simply because he or she is more polished in the art of manipulation. You would think that a married narcissist would be more subdued in his pursuit of a secondary source of supply but he is not. He is gung-ho for

What Exactly IS a Narcissist? Connect the dots

By Zari Ballard13 Comments

What exactly IS a narcissist? Growing up, I always thought the word “narcissist” meant conceited…someone who spent to much time in the mirror, grooming himself or herself for the outside world. I do believe that, at that time, this was the definition and personality disorders were yet to be defined. Boyfriends and girlfriends, it seems,

How to Deal With a Narcissist – 3 Easy Steps

By Zari Ballard20 Comments

When learning how to deal with a narcissist, there are really just three steps to follow that will get you to a position of power. As we know, when we’re involved with a narcissist, there is not always the opportunity to just walk away from the relationship…to break up with the narcissist. If we’re involved

Narcissists & The Baffling Break-Up: Q & A (Part 1)

By Zari Ballard3 Comments

I now provide email counseling via Q & A and I felt that my exchange below with a male victim of a female narcissistic partner would be helpful to everyone. As we know, while the female narcissist may be worse than her counterpart, the basic narcissistic behaviors of these people is amazingly similar. The exchange

Narcissists & The Snippet of Truth

By Zari Ballard32 Comments

Narcissists may be pathological liars but there will be those times when, feeling boxed in, the narcissist will toss out what I call a snippet of truth. It would behoove us to believe these snippets of truth when we are privileged to hear them but we never do. For some odd reason, we choose to

Narcissists & The Substance Abuse Excuse

By Zari Ballard20 Comments

Let’s talk about narcissists and addiction since we tend to give narcissists a free pass on many things…alcohol, drugs, cheating…because the poor things just can’t help it. As usual, I have my own perhaps unconventional theory about this but, believe me, it’s taken me a few years to come to it and I base it

Narcissist Abuse: Feeling Sad is No Reason to Go Back

By Zari Ballard17 Comments

As I coach people through narcissist abuse recovery, I see a behavioral and emotional trend occurring about the third week in. It typically happens after an abuse victim is feeling pretty good about having little or no contact with the narcissistic abuser. Emotionally, the victim becomes confused and can no longer differentiate between the feeling