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when-love-is-a-lieDo you have a narcissistic partner? Are you tired of being subjected to emotional manipulation and silent treatments?  Are you desperate to make sense of the madness yet afraid to ask questions? Are you willing to go No Contact but don’t have the slightest idea where to begin and what to do if the narcissist hoovers? Well, if you haven’t read Zari Ballard’s Amazon Best Seller When Love Is a Lie and the interactive workbook companion book, Stop Spinning, Start Breathing,  you’re missing out  on a chance to escape the misery once and for all.

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You can mentally break free from your toxic partner whether you’re maintaining “no contact” or still struggling with it, whether your suffering through another silent treatment and expecting a return, or whether this person is hoovering right now to get you back. The more you wait, the more time you waste.

30 Comments

  • donna

    June 19, 2015 at 4:11 am

    Hi zari as I mentioned in the post before I’m having a lot of problems with my ex narc who I have a child off. As I mentioned previously he’s bk in the UK after spending 5 mts in the states. It’s so hard zari I definantly feel he’s using the hoovering technique but in a subtle way all my emotions that I had are all flooding bk when I met him so he can see his daughter he’s mentioned a few times that he loves me but nothing about a relationship. To cut a long story short we slept together the other day I feel so stupid I know he can never love me. But I’m not sure how to regain my power I’ve told him it was a 1 off and won’t be happening again but when ever he sees he’s daughter that’s all he talks about.

    • Zari Ballard

      June 19, 2015 at 6:47 pm

      Ooops! Got your update! Okay, well just jump back on the wagon, sister. Nothing good EVER comes from sleeping with an ex, let alone a narcissistic one. As long as you keep doing that, he will consider himself in complete control. He is using “seeing” his daughter as a way to get some freebie sex and keep you from moving on with your life. He wasn’t very worried about “seeing” his daughter when he was out of the UK and actually was very indifferent about it. He abandoned you to be with someone else and now he’s obviously “abandoning” her to be with you. How convenient for him that he can keep his women countries apart!

      The way you treated him when he first arrived is the way it needs to be. He shouldn’t be allowed to see his daughter any time that he wants because 1) he’s only using the visit to get to you, and 2) he WILL leave again and then what? He can’t be allowed to have his cake and eat it too all the time whenever he wants and whenever its convenient. I know it’s hard, I really really do, but somehow you have to get back on track and it could start by you going to child support and getting everything legalized. Don’t think for a minute that he isn’t deliberately distracting you from that as well. And God knows the mess that he left in the states with the other woman. Not that she matters at all but it is the elephant in the room to be sure. He DID leave in a very callous, indifferent manner and he should be treated the same way in return. Be strong, sister…..you know what to do!!!

      Zari xo

      • donna

        June 25, 2015 at 11:30 am

        Hi zari I have been putting my own bondaries in place to protect my daughter and me as I mentioned her dad uses the visits and also phone calls as an excuse to push my buttons. I put a plan in place that he see her at a local park on Thursday and Saturday . Last week Friday I noticed he called my phone very late in the night I didn’t bother to answer because I knew he was checking my routine 4 the night or he wanted to talk about being intimate with me which is not gonna happen again. Even though he was the 1 who mentioned seeing his daughter Saturday he didn’t bother call bk after that night so I never bothered to contact him ither. On the Tuesday his daughter kept asking me where he’s gone so I txt him telling him this he never replied then I called him a few times the day after regarding the plan we made for every Thursday he never replied he is giving me the silent treatment what do you think is the best thing that I should do. Not quite sure how to handle this I don’t want it turning into a game where I blank him and he does the same to me it’s hard when you have a child from these people there’s no compromise at all even if I go no contact he’s knows it can’t last forever as he has his daughter. Have you got any ideas I’m clueless but I don’t want he getting in the routine of being able to mess with his 2 year old daughter pycologically cause that’s exactly what he’s doing luring her in when he does see her then when she needs him he is unavailable.

        • donna

          June 28, 2015 at 3:36 am

          My ex narc has decided to create chaos when he didn’t reply to me which i wrote in my last posts I never contacted him bk after that a few days later he contacted both my mom and dad and said he doesn’t want anything to do with the baby from now and he will not be providing any money from now on he diverted the blame to me and said I was not allowing him to see the baby when he wanted to. I have looked into the child maintenance as you mentioned and because he is not working at the moment the most I would get is £20 a month to me that’s an insult. He would be happy with that. He sent me a message the same day he contacted my parents and said I a fucking 2 timing bitch You don’t like me 2 see the baby bitch don’t call me when the baby need money go and call who you let see the baby I’m no more fucking farther to the baby fuck you bitch fuck u fuck u bitch bitch. What hurts is that he’s blatantly discarding his daughter now

          • Zari Ballard

            July 14, 2015 at 3:13 pm

            Hi Donna,

            Hey, I just wanted to say that even though he’s not working right now, the whole point of making it legal in terms of child maintenance is that it gets his name in the system. I don’t know how it works in the UK but in the states, once his social security number is in the system, when and if he does get a job where he actually gets a taxable paycheck, the child support system flags it and starts deducting the appropriate amount depending upon what he makes.

            Now, the other option is to just let him go. No dad is better than a bad, neglectful dad and millions have moms have done it on their own – me included. Your daughter is little so it’s okay, it really is. There’s a big plus to NOT having him around in your business, saying mean things and so forth. You’ve got to weigh that out. I know it hurts but your peace of mind and a peaceful life for your counts for a lot. You don’t need anyone, girl!! You’ll see….

            Zari xo

          • donna

            July 24, 2015 at 3:24 am

            My ex narc has been constantly ringing my phone the last few days I have barred his number but the logs still show on the screen of my phone he has also been ringing my sister she spoke to him and now he is saying he wants to see his daughter and provide for her I still haven’t been answering to him and have blocked the calls off my sisters phone but not sure he’s gonna give up on calling his excuse is he wants too see his daughter even though a few weeks ago he said he didn’t want anything to do with her. Not sure if I should try again with the plan I put in place there’s witnesses now if he messes up again

      • donna

        September 29, 2015 at 3:36 am

        My ex narc keeps showing up at my property unannounced I’m sick of it he’s using seeing his daughter as an excuse. I have been initiating no contact because he’s messing my daughter around. He turned up to my property last weekend and I made it clear that he should not be doing this as we are no longer together he stormed off. Before that we had made plans that he see his daughter the following day which was his birthday he never answered the phone or made contact to speak to little 1. I’ve blocked every way he can contact me other than my mom’s house number he’d call there knowing my mom was looking after my daughter and still come to mine when I don’t answear my door he will shout through the letter box that I’m with another man. I have reported this to the police. but he will use the excuse that he wants to see his daughter and I’m not responding to his calls. Recently my ex narcs mother has been calling my mom’s phone asking for me she rang quite a few times on Sunday I wasn’t there then called bk Monday and Tuesday. My mom answered and said I wasn’t there she said if there was anything she wanted to talk to me about and his mom said no she wanted to speak to the baby. I’m not sure if my ex is behind the whole thing. She’s never called continuous like that before. Surely she knows what her sons about

        • Zari Ballard

          September 29, 2015 at 10:07 am

          Hi Donna,

          I’m sorry that he’s acting that way and sending confusing messages to your daughter. He has to know that he simply can’t make plans and then not show up. Do you not have set visitation and child support set up through the courts? If we talked about that before, I don’t remember. Either way, you SHOULD have it and then there wouldn’t be this going back and forth and mothers getting involved and all that crap. Blocking him when he thinks that he has a “right” to see his daughter simply isn’t going to work and will probably just make him do worse things than yell through the letter box. And since you’re never going to convince him that he’s wrong, you better get his set dates in writing and to a judge. It’s the only way.

          NOTE****For some reason, Donna, your posts are going to a book sales page that was supposed to have comments disabled. I’ve had to set it back to disabled. When you respond, please post to another article so that your posts will automatically show.

          Zari xo

  • donna

    May 23, 2015 at 2:57 am

    Hi zari i have purchased ur 3 books in pdf format. However there is a bit of caos in my life at the moment . I was with my ex partner of 10 years who turns out to be a narcissist I also have a child off him he recently discarded me and my daughter to move from the UK and marry and live with another woman in the states. There was absolutely no signs he was intending to do this. However I have accepted the discard and now moving on with my life I really do Want to do no contact the only issue is I have to end up calling him to send money to his daughter this is a roller coaster as I call he doesn’t answer I leave voice mail messages specifying what his daughter needs and then have to end up ringing his mom for her to pass the message on to him. I think he feels important when I do
    this but I know if I don’t he defiantly won’t provide nothing. Have you got any advise on what I should do.? I don’t know his adress or nothing in the states he keeps that all secret so it possibly would not work if I went through the court’s

    • Zari Ballard

      May 30, 2015 at 4:43 pm

      Hi Donna,

      Yes, it would absolutely work if you went through the child support/court system. You have a phone number for him, right? You have a number, name, and address for his mom, right? Go right down to your local Child Support office (Dept of Economic Security usually), take a number, and speak to someone. Tell them his name, phone number, and the name, address, and number of his mother. The important thing is to GET HIS INFORMATION IN THE SYSTEM. That’s all they need really to get the ball rolling. Do you happen to know his social security number? If not, they’ll find it based on old addresses that you can provide. Is his name on the birth certificate or have you taken a paternity test? If he’s working, they will find out by running his name through the database and then they’ll garnish his wages. In fact, give his mom’s address also as one of his last known addresses so that it will also be listed as HIS address. They will send so many letters and make so many calls to his mom’s house that she will give him up.

      You can do this and you it is YOUR RIGHT AND YOUR DAUGHTER’S RIGHT to do it! It’s not as hard as you think. Put all the information I described above on a piece of paper and get yourself down to your local DES office. They will tell you how to file a child support claim with the courts. Once you go and get that signed by a judge, you go back to the child support office and THEY WILL FIND HIM AND ONCE HE’S FOUND, YOU WILL START GETTING MONEY.

      Let me know if you need more info!

      Zari xo

      • donna

        May 31, 2015 at 11:03 am

        He mother lives abroad as well she lives in the states even though me and him were together 10 yrs. I had never meet his mother just spoke verbally over the phone. But most of the time he would sob and say he didn’t talk to his family because they treated him bad. But I guess it was one of his plans to deter me from talking to them because he didn’t want me finding out about the other woman. Now when I speak to the mom I can tell it’s not authentic she overlooks what he has done and makes it look acceptable. She definantly will not give me her address now he’s most likely made me out to be mad. Like they always do just before they discard I only have his adress that he was staying at in the UK. He’s name is on my daughters birth certificate. I’m so shocked how much things he’s had secretly planned behind my back the whole time. My daughter has just gone 2

        • Zari Ballard

          May 31, 2015 at 3:53 pm

          Hi Donna,

          If his name is on the birth certificate, you’re half way there. And you still have his mom’s number and if it’s a home number, do a reverse phone look up on a UK phone search website. Have you searched his name online to see if there’s more info out there? Does he have a Facebook or is he on any social media sites? The internet is a huge database of information – use it. Either way, tell no one that you know that he knows about your plans and take that birth certificate down to the local DES office and get the ball rolling. There isn’t a reason on this planet why he should be able to shirk his monetary duties to provide for his daughter. Don’t let him get away with it because he is counting on you to do nothing. It’s ludicrous.

          Mine did the same thing – sobbed about his relationship with his mom and kept me away so that he’d have a “safe house” for his indiscretions. they’re all the same. Forget what he’s done to you and take his ass to court for your daughter. These bastards do this all the time and it appears that his family has some money if they can have homes in two countries. Be strong and rake him over the coals, sister! And don’t allow him to pop in and out whenever he feels like being daddy or not paying child support. Enough is enough!

          Keep me updated!

          Zari xo

          • donna

            June 1, 2015 at 10:29 am

            Hi zari, he came back from the states last week and just turned up unannoced at my front door didn’t expect him back cause he had been gone 5 months. But I set everything straight with him there and then I said we were no longer together so he should not be turning up unannoced and if he done it again I would take out a restraint order against him he seemed shocked I allowed him to hold his daughter for 2 minutes then took her in and shut the door. He waited arong for a while then walked off. The following day he called wanting to see his daughter again I said if he wanted to see her he would have to provide regularly towards her and he agreed I had left somethings at his previously before we broke up including stuff for my daughter so I went to pick all the stuff I left there with a family member he seemed in a panic state I guess he felt like he wasn’t in control. I was nice the whole time I collected the items. Just before I left we organised that Saturday he would give me money for his daughters new bed as she really needs one. He agreed however on friday I gave him a call twice no answer then left a message saying I put down a deposit on the bed and need the rest of the payment for Saturday I said in the text I thought we were on good terms for the sake of our daughter no reply. However I have not tried to call him bk was driving today I saw him walking on the road I didn’t even look at him just drove right past now I have also changed the setting on my phone so that only my contacts can call me.

          • Zari Ballard

            June 19, 2015 at 6:34 pm

            Hi Donna,

            Sorry it has taken me so long to respond to this post. Many things could have transpired since you wrote it on the 1st but I wanted to say that everything you described that you did, said to him…you were spot-on! And, yes, it IS all about him being in control. Please send an update, okay? I hope you and your daughter are well….you’re doing great and treating him just as he deserves. Stick to those boundaries, girl!

            Zari xo

  • donna

    May 19, 2015 at 10:20 pm

    I purchased these books on the 18th May 2015 by the link above still haven’t received the pdf vershion

    • Zari Ballard

      May 20, 2015 at 5:24 pm

      Hi Donna,

      You should have it by now and I added my third book to it as well. Something is wrong in Yahoo mail right now where I’m not getting my notifications and I’m so sorry. I finally checked my PayPal and you weren’t the only one I missed. So sorry everyone! Let me know if you didn’t receive it, Donna, and I will resend:)

      Zari xo

  • nichole

    May 8, 2015 at 7:04 pm

    I ordered this 12 hours ago and still have not received anything. Thank you.

    • Zari Ballard

      May 10, 2015 at 6:31 pm

      Hi Nichole,

      So sorry, I was running late trying to get to all of the orders. I have sent the books and I have also included my third book, Narcissist Free, as a gesture of apology. Enjoy and I hope you find the books helpful. If you haven’t received them still, please answer this message and I will resend.

      Zari

  • Jane

    May 2, 2015 at 10:20 pm

    Left narc 9 years ago but he’s treating kids as he treated me (and still does when he gets the chance)
    Would these books be useful for us?

    • Zari Ballard

      May 6, 2015 at 3:18 pm

      Hi Jane,

      I’m sorry that your children are now going through this and yes, I do believe that my books would be very helpful. You don’t say how old they are but I’m assuming they are at least teenagers or older? Although my books are not specifically geared to the children of narcissists, I’m very clear about the behaviors of the narcissist and lay it out there with no-holds barred. I have no doubt they will recognize their father in the pages. Now, that being said, it would be good if perhaps you read them first:) Maybe you could pick pieces/chapters from it that may address their questions. You and I both know that this guy is never going to change. He is what he is. All you can do is explain it as best you can to the kids so that they don’t take it personally. THEY are NEVER the problem no matter what he says or does or how long he ignores them.

      It’s okay, mommy. We’ve all had to get to the point where you’re at. Thank you for being there for them!!

      Zari xo

  • Shelby

    April 16, 2015 at 12:10 am

    Purchased week ago and never received, very disappointed.

    • Zari Ballard

      April 26, 2015 at 12:22 am

      Hi Shelby,

      I’m sorry you haven’t received your books. I just went through all my orders back for two weeks and all books were sent. I will gladly resend because it does happen. The Subject Line will say “2-4-1 Ebook Special”. Please contact me again so I can look for your correct email address. I am so sorry that you didn’t get the books!

      Zari

  • Shannon

    February 20, 2015 at 12:43 pm

    Can these books be purchased as an actual book vice PDF?

    • Zari Ballard

      February 23, 2015 at 8:58 pm

      Hi Shannon,

      If you prefer downloading a PDF rather than downloading from Amazon, just use this link. It takes me about 4-6 hours to get to my orders, but I will send you the books via the email that you use to make the PayPal payment:)

      Zari xo

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